Love the Life You Lead. Fall 2013. DAY THREE. Keele Burgin

Love the Life You Lead. Fall 2013.
DAY THREE. Keele Burgin

Not all women’s groups work. Sometimes the noise in our heads gets in the way.

I am sharing a letter I wrote to a newly forming and struggling women’s group. 


I love women. I love big women, small women, women who refuse me (it is just temporary) and women who embrace me. 

I love the ones who are dressed up, dressed down and I love the ones that have found their perfect style and wear it with unconscious grace, whether they are at the grocery or at The Met.

I love their fears, their accomplishments, their wit and their hiding. 

I love how women celebrate.

Women have carried me, taught me, nursed me and pulled me through the world when I wanted out. They have held my hand when I was afraid of touch and taught me that I would die with out it. 

I always look in their eyes, that is where I learn the most. 
Women can tell a story by saying hello in passing. 

I want the layers, the pain, the candor and the unknown. 

In my women’s group…

I want to show up
I want to belly laugh
I want tears
I want to show up lonely and leave overflowing with connection
I want to know that my insides are safe to spill
I want you to help me go into the world more courageously 
I want to hold your hand to do the same
I want to discuss juicy topics that matter
I want to be both teacher and student
I want to watch you soar 
I want to go deeper as a tribe
I want to belong


As women, we gather. We Red Tent. We commiserate, connect and drink our holy wine as a bona fide tribe.

We crave a tribe, a sacred circle, a safe place to emerge and retract with no agenda in tow.

Women can fit in anywhere, but to belong is what we crave. We chase fitting in because it looks good on the outside, but the belonging is our soul’s request. 

If you don’t have one, create a women’s group where belonging is the declaration, where you take a deep breath instead of holding your breath to fit in.

I challenge you to take five minutes right now and make a list of where you belong and where you are just fitting in. It might surprise you. Choose where you belong.

Please visit 
I am sprucing up the website, so sign up and I will let you know when the new one goes live. I would love to connect with you and hear where you belong.

About melindarabrams

Melinda Abrams, CPCC, MSA is a champion of the shared experience. She consistently moves individuals and groups to deeper levels of connection and support, and models ‘being moved’ by what is present in the space. She believes that in this creative combustion, capacity expands ….simply, naturally, magnificently. In addition to coaching corporate executives, Melinda takes great pleasure collecting and sharing messages about Loving the Life you Lead on facebook and her blog Moving Leaders. She loves coaching, delivering experiential programs at outdoor education centers, teaching teleclasses, holding weekend retreats, and guiding leaders to MOVE. Melinda brings over 20 years of teaching and leadership development to Moving Leaders. Her work spans experiences with youth, corporate clients, and both business and medical graduate students at Duke, University of North Carolina, North Carolina State and Wake Forest Universities. Her commitment is to serve emerging leaders as they move towards shared enthusiastic leadership. And YES! Melinda is also an artist. She creates unique handpainted scarves. In my art, my coaching, and my spiritual practice I consistently return to wonder and awe. As I turn to wonder and create from there I experience a profound connection with source. This movement brings me to this latest series of scarves. I love the idea of wrapping oneself in an idea–an intention– a possibility, and creating beauty with that intention. My hope is that when one chooses this scarf to wear, they turn from disconnected bland to soulful brilliant. Of course when the scarf is open and hung you can read the message, yet when it is draped and worn, the message is simply seen as a design. My promise is that the wearer is reminded to turn towards the message and that the message is shared through the wearers actions and interactions with others. Melinda Abrams Melinda loves living in Chapel Hill, NC with her husband and three children.
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