Love the Life You Lead. Fall 2013.
DAY THREE. Keele Burgin
Not all women’s groups work. Sometimes the noise in our heads gets in the way.
I am sharing a letter I wrote to a newly forming and struggling women’s group.
I love women. I love big women, small women, women who refuse me (it is just temporary) and women who embrace me.
I love the ones who are dressed up, dressed down and I love the ones that have found their perfect style and wear it with unconscious grace, whether they are at the grocery or at The Met.
I love their fears, their accomplishments, their wit and their hiding.
I love how women celebrate.
Women have carried me, taught me, nursed me and pulled me through the world when I wanted out. They have held my hand when I was afraid of touch and taught me that I would die with out it.
I always look in their eyes, that is where I learn the most.
Women can tell a story by saying hello in passing.
I want the layers, the pain, the candor and the unknown.
In my women’s group…
I want to show up
I want to belly laugh
I want tears
I want to show up lonely and leave overflowing with connection
I want to know that my insides are safe to spill
I want you to help me go into the world more courageously
I want to hold your hand to do the same
I want to discuss juicy topics that matter
I want to be both teacher and student
I want to watch you soar
I want to go deeper as a tribe
I want to belong
As women, we gather. We Red Tent. We commiserate, connect and drink our holy wine as a bona fide tribe.
We crave a tribe, a sacred circle, a safe place to emerge and retract with no agenda in tow.
Women can fit in anywhere, but to belong is what we crave. We chase fitting in because it looks good on the outside, but the belonging is our soul’s request.
If you don’t have one, create a women’s group where belonging is the declaration, where you take a deep breath instead of holding your breath to fit in.
I challenge you to take five minutes right now and make a list of where you belong and where you are just fitting in. It might surprise you. Choose where you belong.
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