Love the Life You Lead. Fall 2013 DAY FOUR. Leann Maxwell-Burr

Love the Life You Lead. Fall 2013
DAY FOUR. Leann Maxwell-Burr


Soooo…we all dream of having a life that we love. Many of us even have a good sense of what that may look like. Some of us have even seen it in our dreams. (soul knowledge/manifestation…topics for later perhaps, but still connected so pay attention to your dreams, especially day dreams)

So, the dream of a life we LOVE is there. What does yours look like? WHAT are you waiting for? And WHAT messages are you giving yourself that are keeping you from it?

Here is my mini-rant on what got me off my ass and into motion…. The result of which is already bringing my family and I great joy, and will for years to come!

Dave and I are a hard working couple. We’ve raised 4 kids. We’ve been through many trials and tribulations over the years. And we had a dream. A dream of a post & beam vacation/retirement home that we could share with our families in our golden years. (Note: we are not yet to Golden, still in Silver) The dream was vivid. It was an affordable, small, yet lovely post & beam lake house. A place where the family could gather and enjoy each other…yet not quite big enough for any of the kids to move back in. (bad Mama? NOPE…Sane one) Anyway, in our dream, it had one bedroom and bathroom on the 1st floor, a small well appointed kitchen open to a great room with a fireplace and soaring windows, and a Loft…That’s it! Small, yet elegant & high quality. We’ve researched these homes, to discover, that in general, no one builds post & beams that small. We’d either have to buy a larger house, or lower our standards on a small one. I filed this information in the back of my thought cabinet under “WHATEVER”.

We’ve been carrying this dream around in our hearts while thinking and believing things like “it’s not time YET…” “we cant afford this now”… “that is for LATER, after we work hard for a few more years”, “that’s for when we retire…” (the latter is really funny because retirement is just a big “IF” anyway)

Now, let me jump to my dear friend Mary. She is like my sister. I love her with every cell in my being. She is the friend who knows all the dark mysterious crap which is me, and I her. We are relatively inseparable. A remarkable example to us all, Mary has just recently finished achieving HER main dream of becoming a Nurse. Her kids raised… a little time on her hands…she heads back to school and busts her ass for years…earns her nursing degree and gets the job of a lifetime! We Celebrate!!! It’s so AWESOME To witness her achieve her dream and begin living it! Truly amazing and an inspiration to us all!

And…. 3 weeks later, we find out that Mary had stage 4, inoperable Colon Cancer.

Dave and I are beside ourselves with grief…as are all of her friends and family. In the darkness and muck of her reality…something dawns on me. …”WHAT ARE WE WAITING FOR!?” There may BE no tomorrow…. We MUST start living our dream today…now…in this moment, and we must TRUST that it will somehow work out. SO… the search began for the lake house. (truth: I’d been looking on and off but NOT with any seriousness and was only confirming that what we dreamed about would be impossible to find)

BUT NOW… something is different. ALL of our energy is ALIVE around this… now, we MEAN it when we say THE TIME IS NOW. We DESERVE This. We will NOT Wait any longer… we CANT. We are DETERMINED around living our dream. BIG TIME.

So, guess what happened? In my foray back into the real estate search…low and behold…. There it freaking is! The house from my imagination….It’s for sale… and we can afford it. There was one significant difference from my dream. It is not on a lake. It overlooks the mountains… in fact, it overlooks THE Mountain where Dave and I got engaged. This in itself holds significance too lengthy to describe here. We will close on our Dream House on 12/27. We are so thankful that we STOPPED WAITING. We are so thankful that we LISTENED to how we were being guided and stopped living in the “fear” space, or the “undeserving” space, or the “not yet” space. We are also thankful that we were a tad flexible in our Dream space, for if we’d only searched the “lake” homes we’d never have found it) And, I’ll be taking Mary up there for some sister time, to get her away from it all , and…to help her heal.

You never quite know what the impetus will be… but I ask you…. WHAT is YOUR Dream? Define it… dream it often…then watch for subtle signs that it’s time to move on it! SHED the doubts that are getting in your way. BE a little bit flexible about the tiny details….and, DO NOT DELAY… you never know what tomorrow will bring.


About melindarabrams

Melinda Abrams, CPCC, MSA is a champion of the shared experience. She consistently moves individuals and groups to deeper levels of connection and support, and models ‘being moved’ by what is present in the space. She believes that in this creative combustion, capacity expands ….simply, naturally, magnificently. In addition to coaching corporate executives, Melinda takes great pleasure collecting and sharing messages about Loving the Life you Lead on facebook and her blog Moving Leaders. She loves coaching, delivering experiential programs at outdoor education centers, teaching teleclasses, holding weekend retreats, and guiding leaders to MOVE. Melinda brings over 20 years of teaching and leadership development to Moving Leaders. Her work spans experiences with youth, corporate clients, and both business and medical graduate students at Duke, University of North Carolina, North Carolina State and Wake Forest Universities. Her commitment is to serve emerging leaders as they move towards shared enthusiastic leadership. And YES! Melinda is also an artist. She creates unique handpainted scarves. In my art, my coaching, and my spiritual practice I consistently return to wonder and awe. As I turn to wonder and create from there I experience a profound connection with source. This movement brings me to this latest series of scarves. I love the idea of wrapping oneself in an idea–an intention– a possibility, and creating beauty with that intention. My hope is that when one chooses this scarf to wear, they turn from disconnected bland to soulful brilliant. Of course when the scarf is open and hung you can read the message, yet when it is draped and worn, the message is simply seen as a design. My promise is that the wearer is reminded to turn towards the message and that the message is shared through the wearers actions and interactions with others. Melinda Abrams Melinda loves living in Chapel Hill, NC with her husband and three children.
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